I was born in the mid-1950s, and it seems to me that during
my entire lifetime I have heard folks talk about newfangled ways to make things
easier, more efficient, more convenient, and faster. In my childhood,
television made a mass-market appearance, and along with it came TV dinners.
Our housecleaning evolved to electric vacuum cleaners from push brooms and sweepers. Our old Royal Underwood typewriter faced off with the electric
typewriter when I took my Clerk-Typist I civil service exam for a summer job in
high school. Gadgets and appliances filled up empty spaces in our cabinets and
closets, and then the home computer hit the market (my first computer was an
Apple IIe back in the early 1980s).
As the computer insinuated itself into our homes and our
lifestyles, we added new words to our verbal repertoire. “Multi-tasking” made
its appearance around 1966 as a computer term to refer to the “concurrent
performance of several jobs by a computer.” (Merriam-Webster). Today it also
refers to the performance of multiple tasks at one time by a human. This is
where I think we now find ourselves with a problem: we no longer are able to
“be present.”
What does it mean to be present? To me being present means
being involved in the “now.” It means being completely focused on what is
happening at the moment. When I am present, I am thinking about what I am
doing. I am not thinking of things other than the task before me. I am
completely focused, involved, and engaged in what I am doing. I am not
distracted by other things that vie for my attention. I am doing one thing at a
time and paying attention to what I am doing in that moment.
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I discovered this phenomenon during my law practice days. I found that some days I left the office feeling very satisfied with the work I had accomplished. Other days, my “point one (.1)” days, left me completely enervated. Point one refers to the practice in law of recording work time in increments of 6 minutes or .1 of an hour. A point one day was a day that I accomplished many little things, each lasting about .1 of an hour. A point one day meant that I frequently switched from one task or file or client to another every six minutes, and I would be exhausted at the end of such a day – physically and mentally.
As a teacher, I spend a great deal of my teaching time
developing my students’ abilities to focus and concentrate. I myself had to
learn this skill in my first semester of college. My university teacher, Helen
Kwalwasser (Temple University) correctly identified that I lacked the ability
to concentrate. I had been told that I needed to practice many hours per day,
and I had indeed put in many hours of practice during my high school years.
However, I did not practice in the moment. Instead of building up my ability to
concentrate, I developed the ability to play without focus and attention. Helen
broke me of this habit within one week by insisting that my practice sessions be
limited to 20 minutes at the most. I was permitted to practice as many times as
I wanted during the day, but I was not allowed to practice beyond 20 minutes at
a time.
As a teacher, it matters that my students are present
when they learn or practice, because my students are more
efficient in their efforts. They do not waste time. They practice while they are aware of what
they are doing, and so they are engaged and listening. They practice mindfully and
therefore accomplish more in a shorter amount of time than they did when
they practiced while unfocused or distracted.
How do we develop the ability to be in the present? There
are many resources on the Internet that suggest ways to improve this area. One
of my favorite articles was written by Leo Babauta (for article, click here: Being Present - Zen Habits). I have found three things that work in my life: running (or
exercise), writing, and raising dogs.
I have run several marathons and half marathons, and two ultra
marathons (50K or 31 miles). I have also written many term papers and completed
several other large writing projects. I have found a direct relationship
between the concentration involved in both areas. When running a long distance,
I learned how to focus my mind on the task before me (such as an entire day of
running). When writing a large project, I focused my mind in the same way.
I raise miniature long-haired dachshunds, and I currently
have a pack of 6 adult dogs, 1 youth dog, and 3 puppies that need to move on to
new homes (contact me if you are interested in a puppy born the night of our
Carnegie Hall debut 3/22/12). Dogs live in the moment. They do not fret over
what they did not accomplish yesterday or what embarrassing mistake they made
in the past. They are not concerned about what the future holds. They live here
and now, and they are great reminders to us of the value of living in the
present.
I have noticed that many families and parents have lost
touch with the ability to be present in the moment. Perhaps cell phones are one
of the culprits as to why we are increasingly distracted from our present moments.
I have turned off my phone’s ring tone. I hear the phone vibrate when someone
calls, but I do not hear the phone indicate when new email or text messages
arrive. Still, my phone sends me notifications and alerts, and my screen lights
up. I have even noticed that the phone screen diverts my students’ attention.
As a teacher, I know the value to the student of a parent
who pays attention to the student during the lesson. Many times a student will
turn around during a lesson to see if the parent is watching. One group class,
one of my young pre-twinklers turned to look at her dad and his new girlfriend,
and unfortunately, both adults were completely engrossed in their smart phones.
Another mother sometimes spends the entire lesson making phone calls.
These are egregious examples of parents who are not showing
interest in their child’s lessons. Not all cases are this severe. We fall prey
to the competing distractions that attack us from every direction today. We can
all use a reminder about paying attention.
Being in the present is a skill and ability that we need to
nurture in ourselves and our children and students. I hope that parents
strengthen this ability of being present so that their children reap the
benefit of the parent’s full attention. I hope that students develop the
ability of being present and focused so that they learn and accomplish more in an
efficient way while practicing or in lessons. I hope that teachers learn how to
be present so that they can role model this powerful skill and ability for
their students and their parents.
Have a great week! Be present!
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